As we keep an eye out for each other we may notice a change in their behaviour or mood indicating they’re not feeling themselves.
This behaviour might include being snappy, withdrawn, negative attitude, tired, hyper, coming in late or working extra hours - possibly avoiding going home, dealing with financial worries or overstretched.
So how can we approach someone we think is not feeling themselves
Let them know you are thinking of them
regular texts or calls
If it’s a colleague arrange a catch-up. It’s best to approach via a text or email to give them space and make the catch up somewhere private
Go for a walk or a drive. There’s less pressure as not sitting face to face and helps someone open up.
Empathise and share your own experiences – helps open up and build trust.
You can start with something like “it’s been a rough year for everyone, I know I’ve found it hard. How are things going for you?”
- Don’t judge
- Listen – we naturally want to fix, but sometimes letting someone just talk out loud is letting them fix things in their minds and start making a plan
- Ask if they have support
- Be there – just sitting together is huge
- Suggest they call 1737 or EAP
- Help book professional appointment or take them there if need be – remember if someone is very stressed or depressed even calling strangers is a big deal
- Debrief – you too can call 1737 for this. It’s important to reset ourselves after hearing some tough things.